I am going to say something that might be uncomfortable: you do not have a motivation problem. You have a direction problem.
Running Toward the Wrong Destination
The people who come to me thinking they need more drive, more discipline, more hustle — most of them are not lacking energy. They are spending enormous energy pursuing something that was never theirs. And the body knows it. The resistance they feel is not laziness. It is their deepest self refusing to run faster toward the wrong destination.
Here is how this happens. You grow up absorbing a particular definition of success. It might be your parents' definition, your culture's, your social media feed's. It gets installed so early and so completely that it feels like your own desire. You build a life around it. You make progress. You check boxes. And you feel... nothing. Or worse, you feel the low hum of something wrong that you cannot name.
This is not a quarter-life crisis or a midlife crisis. It is a direction crisis, and it can happen at any age.
Unconscious Resistance as Information
Milton Erickson worked extensively with what he called unconscious resistance — the phenomenon where someone consciously wants one thing but their behavior consistently produces another. His insight was that the resistance was not a problem to be overcome. It was information. The unconscious mind was protecting the person from a path that was not authentic to them.
The shift happens not by adding more motivation, but by getting honest about what you actually want when nobody is watching. Not the Instagram version. Not the version that would make your parents proud. The real one.
The Body Knows
Try this: close your eyes and imagine yourself five years from now in the life you are currently building. Not the best-case scenario — the realistic trajectory. How does your body respond? Now imagine five years from now in a life you have never told anyone about — the one you think about late at night. How does your body respond to that?
The difference between those two body responses is the gap between should-want and actually-want. And that gap is where most people's "motivation problems" live.
The Life You Actually Want vs. The Life You Think You Should Want is a session designed to close that gap from the inside out.